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In many families the fact that one or more sibling might take on care for a brother or sister with autism is not discussed – even well into adulthood. Sometimes it is assumed that this role is a given, or is inevitable, sometimes there is a hope that it will not need to be taken on by one of the siblings, but whatever the reason the topic just doesn't seem to come up. However, this is a big job, and one that needs to be carefully considered to ensure that both the sibling who will be the caretaker (in whatever form that takes) and the sibling with autism are prepared.

Do you want to be responsible for your sibling? Is your spouse or significant other on board with your decision to take on that responsibility? How do you bring up this topic with your parents? What are the important issues to consider when talking about becoming someone's caregiver? How will you ensure that you brother or sister is financially taken care of? What can you do now to prepare for that role? What can your parents do to ensure that the transition is as easy as possible for you and your sibling?

These are just some of the questions that come up when you start thinking about your role as caretaker. The presenter will walk through each of these questions and others and provide strategies, resources and her own personal experiences dealing with this new role.

Aside from the questions, there are some specific aspects about your brother or sister's life to think about now in order to be prepared down the line. Housing is probably one of the biggest issues to consider. Where your sibling will live, whether it be with you, in a group home, on his or her own, or in government housing is something to start thinking about early, because it may require planning. There may be waiting lists to sign up for, or skills your sibling will need to learn, or preparations you will need to make, either physically to your home or emotionally, in order to be ready. Another issue to consider is finances. Are you going to be responsible for your siblings spending? What about their long term finances like a special needs trust, government benefits or other resources they may have? The presenter will provide some important first steps you can take to understand all of the financial issues that might impact your sibling, and offer you resources that you can refer to as particular issues arise in your situation. Other issues to be discussed include employment, sexual activity, social interactions and transitions.

Last but not least, it is important not to lose yourself in the role of caretaker. You have your own life, and you are entitled to live it! The presenter will provide some suggestions for how to check how balanced your life is between your own needs and those of your sibling, as well as ideas for how to take care of yourself and some of the things she does to ensure that she doesn't get lost in caring for others.

The goal of this session is for siblings who may someday take on the role of caretaker to be aware of what is ahead of them and to have some tools to help them manage that responsibility successfully.