What are men expected to do confronted by the realities of autism? The typical male response is to keep a lid on emotions, take charge of practical details, and support others because they think they are expected "to be strong." The greatest frustration for men is that they cannot fix the situation and make it better for their wives or their children. The pain that accompanies this realization creates a need to connect with others experiencing the same thing. It takes time to acknowledge feelings and let them be heard.
It helps to think about what feelings may be underneath being angry, grumpy, or irritable. It could be something more tender—like worry or sadness that is harder for a man to own up to. In addition, it is important to realize that when a woman wants to talk about a problem, she doesn’t always want a man to fix it--she may just want you to listen or tell what is on your mind.
In this presentation, the panel chair will give a brief overview of the passions that fathers bring to raising a child on the spectrum and of some essential male-female differences as well as systemic obstacles that fathers experience. Panelists will be asked to share pivotal experiences as a father, self-advocate, or service provider relating to the overall purpose of developing relationships with fathers and male role models. Each panelist will share a few photos of family life via a power point presentation. Participants will be invited to react to what they have heard, share experiences, and make suggestions to help develop the voices of fathers in the autism community. Panel chair will summarize and conclude the session.
Most of the panelists also presented this material in the 2010 Autism Society Convention. If this proposal is accepted 3 additional panelists will be added to those already mentioned.
Learning objectives are as follows:
- Participants will learn about the special role of fathers for children with autism.
- Participants will bring home strategies to increase the participation of fathers.
- There will be increased understanding of male-female differences in parenting a child with autism.
- Participants will learn about the perspectives that individuals with autism have towards their fathers.
Bringing together the expertise and experiences of fathers, self advocates, and service providers, attendees will learn about the special contributions and needs of fathers and bring home ideas as well as effective strategies to increase the involvement of fathers and male role models in homes, communities, schools, and ASA chapters.
Robert A. Naseef, Ph.D.
Robert Naseef is a psychologist and parent of an adult child with autism. He is the author of Autism in the Family:Caring and Coping Together (2013), Special Children, Challenged Parents (1997) and co-editor of Voices from the Spectrum (2006). He specializes in family issues with autism.
Stephen M. Shore, Ed.D.
Stephen Shore was nonverbal until four and recommended for institutionalization, Dr. Shore focuses on empowering people with autism to develop their capacities to the fullest extent possible. Internationally known author and educator and Autism Society advisory board member, Stephen also serves on boards of other related organizations and teaches at Adelphi University.
Self-Advocate, Founder of Wrong Planet
Alex runs, owns, and develops WrongPlanet.net, a popular autism community that he started after being diagnosed with Asperger's. He graduated from George Mason University with a degree in Film and Video Studies and started the popular online TV show, Autism Talk TV.
Special Needs Planning Center of Dallas
Prior to assisting his 22-year-old autistic son (DJ) with his transiton into community college, Don spent more than a decade in the insurance and financial services industry. Don now serves as a volunteer with Texas Parent to Parent, the Dallas Autism Society, and the Texas Microboard Movement.
President, Autism Society of Florida ( ASA state chapter)
Autism Society of Florida
Ven Sequenzia is the parent of a child with autism and President of the Autism Society of Florida. Ven has played a critical role in advocating for the Florida Centers for Autism and Related Disabilities and championing autism within the Florida Legislature.
Diane Adreon, Ed.D.
UM-NSU Center for Autism & Related Disabilities
Diane Adreon, Ed.D., has served as associate director of UM-NSU Center for Autism & Related Disabilities since 1993. In addition, Dr. Adreon has co-authored two books on ASD, and serves on several professional advisory boards as well as two editorial boards.
Kent is CEO and Founder of projectLD and the internationally acclaimed AutismSpot.com. AutismSpot (inspired by Kentís son Sam) is an unbiased website providing news, videos, and articles to families and professionals in over 160 countries. projectLD is a diversified media company specializing in health, entertainment, and education properties.
Craig was diagnosed with a learning disability at the age of six, and spent the next twelve years in special education. He has since earned two degrees, has published on the local and national levels, and is the Assistant Editor of SensorySpot.com (sister site of AutismSpot.com). Craig also has a child diagnosed with verbal apraxia.