The Autism Society Event and Education Recordings Archive

1. Opening remarks by panelists (5 min. each)

Panelists will:

o Summarize their own background & family situation, e.g.

· how and when they arrived at a diagnosis (some of us, in the process of our kids' diagnoses!)

· brief profiles of their kids, partners, and other significant family members

o Describe 1-2 key positives or negatives that arise for them specifically because they're on the spectrum, e.g.

· in the course of how they relate to their kids on the spectrum

· in the course of how they relate to their non-autistic kids, if any

· in the course of how they relate to their partners (who may be on the spectrum or non-autistic)

· in the course of how they relate to extended family

· in the course of how they relate to people outside the family

· in situations where they are advocating for their kids in school settings

· in situations where they are advocating for their kids in extracurricular settings

· in situations where they are participating as a family in a larger group or community

Some possible positives:

· better able to understand the thinking/emotions/behavior of their kids on the spectrum

· better able to act as an interpreter or mediator for their kids

· better able to demystify autistic ways for non-autistic people

Some possible negatives:

· they are not taken seriously or "written off" when they disclose their diagnosis

· their diagnosis is not taken seriously because if they're parenting kids, they must obviously be "doing so well"

· divergent styles or instincts become an obstacle between them and partners, or between them and their (non-autistic, or maybe even autistic) kids

· some aspects of parenting are exhausting from a physical, emotional, or sensory perspective

· they find it difficult to relate to other, non-autistic parents, or to participate in social contexts with other, non-autistic parents

2. Some brief discussion among panelists of implications for parents who don't have a diagnosis but who are in the broader autism phenotype (have some autistic traits):

o What are the benefits of identifying and leveraging their autistic traits in how they relate to their kids?

o What are the difficulties they might encounter by doing so?

o What are the factors inhibiting them from doing so?

o What could be done about those factors?

3. Audience questions and discussion

Learning objectives:

Attendees will get an introduction to some of the intergenerational aspects of autism, through the panelists' descriptions of how they relate to their kids and partners. Attendees will get some food for thought about how they might beneficially leverage the commonalities they, their partners, or other family members might share with their autistic family members in how they relate to them, and advocate for them. Attendees will gain insight into how some of their peers on the spectrum have dealt with some of the difficulties inherent in parenting and family dynamics.

Contribution to best practices:

The session will identify the benefits of affirming and leveraging the commonalities that parents and family members in the broader phenotype – a substantial fraction of the parent population, by all measures – share with their autistic family members. It will bring to light some of the issues faced by parents who are on the spectrum themselves in advocating for their autistic children, and in the dynamics of their relationships with their children (autistic and non-autistic), partners, extended family, and community. It will suggest approaches to address some of those issues and produce favorable outcomes.

Content Area: Family and Sibling Support